Make a Sacrifice

Recently I saw this commercial on television, which shows a school kid walking over a bridge on a small lake and is suddenly prompted to make a plunge in the water. Wouldn't that be great fun!? But he is compelled not to, by his parents. The boy grows up, is married and has an executive job. But somewhere down the line, he wants to quit and do what he feels is right. But then he thinks about his wife and the child they were expecting soon. Despite his urge to quit, he holds on to the job. He soon prospers and now wants to buy an expensive new car. But then he sees his children and their education needs, which he must meet. Off goes the desire to buy a swanky new vehicle. He had been making a sacrifice at every stage of his life. A compromise with his desires, for different compelling reasons. Years later when he is retired, he makes a walk to the same bridge. He remembers his childhood wish and decides for once to follow his heart. He takes that plunge and realizes his wish. He couldn't have been more happier than on that day.

This ad made me thinking. I agree that one should follow his heart and do what makes you happy, but I can’t help notice the sacrifices that man made at every stage of his life.

Sacrifice may not always be a compulsion. Today, someone living a single life with least worries at hand does not have to sacrifice his desires. For him life has no compromises and he wants to make things go his way. But life brings with it new responsibilities at every passing stage. Soon he would have a wife to care for and kids to look after. He would then have to strive to provide them with best of everything. The struggle to make them happy, lands him in situations where a compromise at some level becomes a must. He may have to forfeit a personal desire for sake of his family. Rewards reaped by such sacrifice maybe be far more than pursuing his personal wantings. Of course no compromise should be too large. One doesn't want a regrettable life!

If essential sacrifice is so important to an individual, then he must surely realize that same sacrifices have been made by his parents for his upbringing. If you never had hardships growing up, got what you always wanted, have good education and lead a successful life, chances are that a great deal of sacrifice has gone into that making. It is time to repay in kind. Be a part of your parents' lives just as you have been all your life. Make some sacrifices of your own to make sure they are loved. Care for them. They don't need your cash. But your love is something they cannot buy. They might not expect much in return, but that does not free you of the debt you owe them.

Life will come full circle when sacrifices you make reap a garden with caring gardeners, who will nurture both old and new plants with unending love.

Don't be selfish. Make a sacrifice. It’s essential.

I was a teenager once...

Teenage is an exciting phase of life. As you gear up to meet a new world, nothing can challenge the confidence, the enthusiasm and the spirit. This is where you decide for yourself, what is right and what is not. You have that liberty, but sometimes maybe not just yet.

Your hormones are going crazy. They cant understand why they are acting that way, but in the process, whats taking form is a rebel. A restless youth with incessant energy, loads of kewl attitude who thinks he is on top of the world. All those raging hormones rarely think about the consequences of their actions.

Home is no place for such attitude show-off. But the rebel does not want to be succumbed anywhere and what follows is a bitter argument full of disrespect for elders. A teenager may not look at things with the same perspective as his parents and may completely overlook a valid rationale for some things and actions.

I was a teenager once. What I say has happened to me at some time or other. Years have gone by and now I find myself doing some curious retrospection.

All that show of kewl attitude is good enough for bragging in front of college crowd, but I learnt that it does not help if you are at a job. The world beyond teenage will take no time to humble you. It will crush you if you resist. The i-know-all or i-know-better attitude blocks the ability and willingness to learn anything new. Arrogance can prove hazardous for a career in making.

Also have I long forgotten those bitter arguments with parents, albeit just because of a difference in opinion. Over the period a sense of responsibility sinks in and I realised that there is no better friend than your father and no better listener than your mother. The support you can expect from your own family is far stronger and reliable than those teenage friends you once had. The rebel soon gives way to realization of unending love, support and caring.

Teenage is that phase of life where you try to find your identity as an individual. Find where you stand in this world. But this cannot be at the cost of where you come from. The new you will always find its roots where it came from and that is why parents have to be given due respect and attention. Respect your roots as they are strong foundation for the future. If at any point, you think you cannot handle the challenges of this world, just turn to your roots and find shelter. No place can be more comforting.

I have lived through and realized all this. That rebel needs to be heard, those hormones will surge but take care not to damage the shelter you are fortunate to have. Couple years down the line, as you look back, hope what you see is a confident, strong-willed, dependable you in the making and not the dishevelled, broken strings of relations gone bad and repent as it is too late to make things right.